Funeral Flowers and Plant Etiquette
When a death occurs, knowing how to comfort those left behind is not always easy and sending funeral or sympathy flowers can be quite the challenge. We have provided you with some helpful ideas that may better assist you in your floral decision.
For a funeral:
- Anyone may send floral baskets, living plants, or gift baskets to the bereaved’s home or workplace.
- Family, or those who had a deeper or more formal relationship with the deceased, can send floral wreaths, crosses, and sprays or sympathy baskets to the funeral home.
- Associations that would like to honor the deceased for service during their lifetime can also send floral wreaths, crosses, and sprays.
- Casket sprays or lid arrangements are traditionally reserved for family members and younger children or grandchildren of the deceased. Floral arrangements known as tributes are generally chosen by good friends or family members, and can be custom designed to specifically highlight an aspect of the deceased’s personality, their occupation, an association membership, armed forces, or a hobby.
For a cremation:
- A tastefully designed floral tribute adds beauty to any type of memorial service.
- It is common for the family to have an arrangement designed for display with the urn.
- Because cremation is quite common in an increasing number of regions, we may have specific suggestions.
- In the case of cremation, much depends on whether; a funeral service is planned or a memorial service is performed at the bereaved’s home, or if there will be no services at all. Generally, it is always appropriate to send an all-occasion type floral or gift basket arrangement.
- Bright flowers can reflect on the energetic personality of the deceased and are chosen to send a message about how others felt about that person. Floral arrangements known as tributes are generally chosen by good friends or family members, and can be custom designed to specifically highlight an aspect of the deceased’s personality, their occupation, an association membership, armed forces, or a hobby.
Regarding sending green or flowering plants:
- Some funeral homes will deliver plants or flowers to the bereaved’s home after the memorial service, while others may require that the family take the plants home with them. Please ask the funeral home staff about their policy.
- Sending flowers in a glass vase to a funeral home is acceptable; however, some funeral homes have rules about certain types of arrangements. If the arrangement you would like to send is anything outside the realm of a traditional sympathy floral design, please consult the funeral home directly concerning their policy on such arrangements before ordering.
Sending flowers as a group:
- This is a very good idea, when mourners pool their financial resources for one arrangement, it can be that much more special, and will have much greater impact.
- Gift cards are large enough to hold a number of names. If the list of names is too long, you may choose to identify yourselves by family, group, or department if coworkers. In either case, you should supply one contact name and address so that the family can send one thank you response.
You missed the funeral:
- It is OK to send flowers to the deceased’s family’s home, as flowers are always appreciated, no matter when they are received. Even if you will also be attending the funeral, sending flowers or a gift basket to the bereaved’s home is a wonderful gesture.
- Some people choose to send flowers a week or so after the funeral to the home of the deceased’s family.
- Some people send flowers to the home of a family member after a period of time passes after the funeral to remind the bereaved that we are still thinking of them and their loss.
Charitable donation requests:
We are often asked if it is all right to send flowers if the death notice requests a charitable donation, “in lieu of flowers”?
- We think you should make the contribution. However, by sending flowers to the funeral service in addition, you are adding warmth and remembrance of life to a somber event and are making a tangible tribute.
Flowers are always appropriate and appreciated, and let the bereaved visibly know how much their loved one touched the lives of others.